In a happy relationship, keeping the good memories alive keeps the joy multiplying. So often we go over and over the hurtful moments and the negative issues in an attempt to watch out for danger and solve problems – i.e., survive. That imprints those memories in our minds.
It isn't as natural to review the happy times, but we need to recognize that memories fade without frequent review. As couples we want our relationship to be happy, and discussion of the good times confirms that it has been good to be together – and can be so, in the future.
Intentionally remember the happy moments, and make that a dinnertime project or a car conversation. Try the game: "Remember when we …"
Remember all of the good times in the Thanksgiving season. The approaching holidays are another good time to practice this happy memory game.