Three-Minute 'I Love You's Make a Difference!

August 21, 2009

By Glenn Tilton



Affection, affirmation, and all the caring ways we pay attention to our partner sustain a loving relationship. We either learned caring behaviors - or didn't. Many of us never saw our parents being affectionate or received affection. But we can learn, now.  


These are the kinds of lessons people can learn in a marriage/relationship education class such as Couplehood, Mastering the Mysteries of Love, and 10 Great Dates. The importance of marriage education is that it provides practical applications of love as an action in relationships. Preaching love is good, but not enough; we all need ideas of "how-to-do-it."


We can ask about what feels loving. "I'd like to show you more often how much I care for you: Please help me learn how." Asking about ways to express affection is a great compliment. Even if you think you already know, ask anyhow! Affection is the sweetness that keeps life tasting good.  


To find out about relationship education classes that have been scheduled at California-Nevada Annual Conference churches, or to inquire about hosting such a class at your church, contact Bea Strickland, The Association for Couples in Marriage Enrichment, at, or Glenn and Gwen Tilton, ABIDE in LOVE, Healthy Marriage for United Methodists, at